I think we are related by the van Gelder Family. Also the Wied family from Lochum was related to van Gelder the name van Gelder was before Leijser the were coming from Germany and chanched the name in van Gelder in Gendringen later on a part of the van Gelders where going to Groningen.
My cussin Johan van Gelder knows a lot and put the van Gelder familly in his book mooie mensen Joop Koekkoek
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